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The following is a selective listing of Boston area mediation, conflict resolution and negotiation trainings and events for April and May 2008.

Find additional training listings at Mediation Works, Inc. (basic training or advanced) and the Harvard Program on Negotiation.

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April 9, 2008 2pm to 4pm
ADR Professions Colliding:
Addressing the Tension Between Mediation and Collaborative Practice
from Massachusetts Council on Family Mediation, Inc.
Presenters: Lynda J. Robbins, Esq., and Karen J. Levitt, Esq.

Location: Arnold Room, Wellesley Free Library, 530 Washington Street, Wellesley, MA

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April 13 - 16, 2008
International Ombudsman Association Annual Conference
3rd Annual Conference of IOA: “Making a Difference-The Ombudsman Impact”
The Boston Park Plaza Hotel, Boston, MA

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April 16, 2008 8:30 - 10am
(Continental Breakfast at 8am)
Dispute Resolution Forum
from Harvard Law School and the Program on Negotiation
Speaker: Rikk Larsen, mediator, trainer, conflict coach, Managing Partner at Howell Larsen Associates, founding partner of Elder Decisions

Location: John Chipman Gray Room, 2nd Floor, Pound Hall

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April 17, 2008 2pm - 5:30pm
Assessing and Addressing Power Imbalances:
Abusive Relationships and the Collaborative Process
from Massachusetts Collaborative Law Council
Presenter: Professor Margaret Drew, University of Cincinnati College of Law

Location: The Walker Center, 171 Grove Street, Newton, MA

Attendance is limited, so register early at Massachusetts Collaborative Law Council
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April 28, 2008 9am - 4pm
Managing Conflict in the Workplace
from Cape Mediation
$150.00($125 by 3/28)

Location: Willy’s World Wellness & Conference Center in North Eastham

“Workplace conflict is inevitable … Learn a proven problem-solving model
and practical skills to help deal with conflict between staff, management, and customers.”

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May 2-9, 2008
CDSC Basic Mediation Training
from Community Dispute Settlement Center

Location: CDSC, 60 Gore Street, East Cambridge, MA
Cost: $695 ($650 if registration recvd. by April 3)

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May 21, 2008 11:30am to 2pm
(Social Time 11:30am to 12pm)
Overcoming Impasse – Tools to Empower Parties to Reach Agreements
from Mediation Works, Inc.
Presenters: Chuck Doran and Josh Hoch

Intended Audience: MWI Court and Divorce Panel Members
“Participating in mediation can be difficult for parties. After time, impasse can seem too difficult to overcome. Join Chuck and Josh for some advanced mediation skill training as they share techniques and discuss strategies for empowering parties to be able to overcome impasse, stay focused, and reach agreement.”

I’m developing a rhythm of posting upcoming Boston area mediation trainings and events in the middle of every month. I expect each post to focus on the upcoming six weeks.

For recent or more immediately upcoming events, please visit my posts under the Training and Events category.

To list your event in my roundups, please email me.

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March 1 - April 5
(March 1, 4, 11, 18, 25 and April 5, 2008: Saturdays 9-5 and Tuesdays 3-9)
Basic Mediation Training
Sponsored by The Mediation & Training Collaborative (TMTC)

Location: Northampton, MA
Fee: $575 - Registration deadline February l5
For more information, 413-774-7469 x16 or shackney@communityaction.us

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March 3, 10, 17, 24, 31 (Fridays, 9am to 4pm)
Intensive Mediation Workshop: Getting Others to Yes
Management Assistance Program in collaboration with Mediation Works, Inc.
Presenters: Charles P. Doran, Josh Hoch, Moshe Cohen, Diane Levin

“… help others to successfully resolve conflicts … effectively facilitate the mediation process … lectures, demonstrations, interactive exercises, supervised role-plays and group discussions. Previous completion of negotiation skills training is helpful … Participants are required to attend all five sessions.”

Location: JRI Health Center for Training and Professional Development
25 West Street, 3rd Flr, Boston, MA 02111
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Wednesday, March 5, 2008 5:30pm to 8:00pm
A Look at Non Violent Communication
Presenter: Scott Loring

Social time 5:30pm to 6:00pm
Intended Audience: MWI Court and Divorce Panel Members

Nonviolent Communication (NVC), developed by Marshall Rosenberg … examines the unmet needs behind what we say or do. The process transforms relationships with others and with one’s self … fosters respect, attentiveness and empathy, and engenders a mutual desire to give from the heart.

Location:
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March 5, 2008 9am-4:30pm
Workplace Conflict Resolution Skills Training for Managers and HR Professionals
Presented by Agreement Resources, LLC: employment attorney Leslie Lockard and mediator Crystal Thorpe

Location: Norwood, MA
Fee: $495 by February 8, 2008, or $520 thereafter (includes lunch and materials)
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Thursday, March 6, 2008 9am - 4pm
Advanced Negotiation Skills for Dispute Resolution Professionals
Presenters: Moshe Cohen and Ericka Gray, OptionBridge

“… beyond “Getting to Yes” to a deeper exploration of the psychological factors that enter into negotiation, different styles of negotiation, and how to assist parties in understanding how their own negotiation styles are contributing to impasse.”

Location: TBA
Fee: $195 until 2/14, $220 after

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Thursday, March 6, 2008 2pm to 5:30pm
Assessing and Addressing Power Imbalances: Abusive Relationships and the Collaborative Process
Presented by: Mass Collaborative Law Council, Professor Margaret Drew, University of Cincinnati College of Law

Welcomed particiapnts: lawyers, mental health professionals, mediators, financial specialists and other professionals interested in collaborative practice.

Location: The Walker Center, 171 Grove Street, Newton, Massachusetts
Limited space. Register at www.massclc.org

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March 12, 15, 16, 19, 26, 29, 30, 2008
Forty-Hour Mediation Training Program
Presented by: Mediation Works, Inc.
(weekend & weeknight program) seven sessions / 40-hours total

“… designed to prepare participants to effectively facilitate the mediation process … explores all aspects of the mediation process through lectures, demonstrations, interactive exercises, supervised role-plays and group discussions.”

Location: Suffolk University Law School,120 Tremont Street, Boston, MA
Fee: $775 ($725 if enrolled a month in advance)

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March 28, 29, 31, April 4
Divorce Mediation Training
Presented by: Community Dispute Settlement Center

“This 24 hour course … integrates substantive information with practice through interactive role playing experience. Prerequisite: Basic Mediation Training.”

Location: CDSC Offices, 60 Gore St., East Cambridge (near Lechmere T, Galleria, courthouses)
Fee: $695 ($675 early registration by Mar. 14) See website for additional discounts.

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Ongoing training.

Community Dispute Settlement Center
Mediation Practicum

Mediation Works, Inc.
MWI Mentor Program

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Select future events.

April 13 - 16, 2008
International Ombudsman Association Annual Conference
3rd Annual Conference of IOA: “Making a Difference-The Ombudsman Impact”
The Boston Park Plaza Hotel, Boston, MA

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UPDATE 2/16/08

A couple of events have popped up. March 7-8 Harvard Negotiation Law Review (HNLR) 2008 Symposium: Dispute Systems Design Across Contexts and Continents and March 8-29 36-hr Training in Mediation and Conflict Resolution.

It’s a big day for the Mediator In the Making! Yesterday, I had my first glimpse into small claims mediation. I can’t wait to go back.

I’ve got pages and pages of notes I’d love to share with you all. Instead of publishing my first ebook, I’ll let it all simmer and explore one thing at a time. (No need to thank me. I realize you might have lives away from my blog.)

Perceptions. A heavily weighted word, and quite rightly so.

It seems to me that each mediator is constantly performing an amazing balancing act. We have our own perceptions of the process, the parties, our performance, our co-mediators. Within each of those, we’re building perceptions of appearances, body language, eye contact, tone of voice, and of course the words we’re hearing. We’re gauging - and maybe hearing - our parties’ perceptions of us, the process, and our co-mediator. And we’re hearing and gauging that of our co-mediator.

Just steps away from perceptions, we will find assumptions. Sometimes baby steps. So then we balance ourselves on the cusp of allowing our perceptions to give way to assumptions, which then would have us leading rather than facilitating or following the parties.

My, my, my! We would all make great circus acts, wouldn’t we? Balancing atop that tight rope, music playing, crowd gasping, and any number of additional distractions.

It was exciting to get to practice the process of recognizing and utilizing my perceptions, acknowledging and setting aside any assumptions which I might give way to in weak moments when I allow myself to not be fully present. To acknowledge and brush off, rather than suppress, any assumptions which could then give way to judgments, and allow myself to proceed with a clear mind and neutral perspective.

There’s another amazing characteristic of perceptions in the mediation room. Others’ perceptions might surprise me, or even directly conflict with my own. Yet there they are. And so I must acknowledge and respond to them. Management and customer service conventional wisdom tell us something similar, and useful here. It doesn’t matter if the customer’s perception seems to be reality from where we sit, or fits with what we mean to have them think. Because it is there, we must acknowledge and respond to it. Allow them to know that they have been heard (notice I do not say “feel heard”). In the mediation room, I guess this could be described as incorporating perceptions into the process.

Of course these are all my very early perceptions of this process. They are my foundational building blocks and I can’t wait to get back in there to continue my learning!

Thanks to James Stinson and his blog, Therapeutic Family Law, for citing this interesting article.

Los Angeles mediator Christine von Wrangel recently published an article entitled, “Mediation: A Lucrative Career or a Ticket to the Poor House?” Full text here.

I’d like to share a few of her words as a contrast to my recent post, The future’s so bright.

Why does the Superior Court pay every judge, secretary, clerk, and janitor, yet refuses to pay the mediators?

Mediation may be interesting, challenging, and meaningful for the individual, society and many professionals. Many mediators pride themselves in creating a more harmonious, peaceful society. Yet only few mediators have succeeded to establish a practice which allows them to not only spread harmony and piece but also earn a comfortable living.

An interesting and far less optimistic view than what we were recently given by U.S. News and World Report’s Best Careers article.

Lots happening in the Boston mediation community! Here’s a roundup of opportunities coming up this month and next.

And you can find nationwide listings here.
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Thursday, January 10, 2008 * 10 a.m. PST/ 1 p.m. EST
Is There Hidden Passive Income in Your Practice?
Stop Trading Time for $$$-Create Passive Income with Jan Marie Dore
ADR Practice Builder teleseminar

Sure, you can toil daily to make your hourly rate, but wouldn’t you rather make money with less effort? You can. Information products are a boon to mediators. You can educate your market about the benefits of mediation while creating a small income stream to support you.
Jan Marie Dore, founder of Femalepreneurs.com will share her insights on:

• Why information products are so valuable to service providers
• How to get over ‘I’m not an expert’ syndrome & really help people
• Finding the products you already created
• How to set prices that sell and more!

Tuition: $19 Members, $34 Non-Members before 12/31- $39 Jan 1
All registrants receive an audio recording as a bonus after the call.
Learn more and Register online.
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Tuesday, January 15, 2008 * 5:30 p.m. - 7:30 p.m.
NE-ACR 2008 New Year’s Resolution Event
Suffolk University Law School, 120 Tremont Street, Boston

Come celebrate the New Year and hear some of your colleagues perform an acoustic “unplugged” set of songs that will keep you warm all winter long! With special musical guests “The New Trolls” (Featuring Chuck Doran, Jack Esher and David Hoffman)

Fees: $25 for members, $30 for nonmembers, and $20 for students.

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January 24, 2008 * 9 am - 4 pm
Dealing With High Emotions in Mediation
Boston University Conference Center at Tyngsboro

In this interactive and experiential workshop, learn the essentials of dealing with activated and demonstrated emotions during mediation. Examine both the participants’ emotional reactions to the negotiation process and the mediator’s reactions. Discover how to handle situations based on the reactions you observe in others and what you feel. Understand the psychological underpinnings of both real and strategic emotional reactions.
Trainers: Moshe Cohen and Ericka B. Gray, OptionBridge
Registration Fee: $195 until January 14, 2008, $220 thereafter
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Tues, January 29, 2008 * 9:00 am – 3:00 pm
Conflict Resolution Skills Training for Eldercare Professionals & Nurses: Working with Families in Conflict
The Walker Center, 171 Grove Street, Newton, MA

Goals of the training are to help professionals:

• Facilitate multi-party decision-making
• Work with parties with strong emotions
• Build Conflict Resolution skills

Recommended for professionals who work with multiple family members making difficult decisions.

Elder Decisions
Register online
Cost: $195 six weeks prior to event; $225.00 thereafter (lunch included)
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February 6-7, 2008 * 9:00 – 5:00
Elder Mediation Training: An Advanced Training Program for Mediators
The Walker Center, 171 Grove Street, Newton, MA

Elder mediation helps seniors and their adult children resolve conflicts around issues such as living arrangements, caregiving, financial planning, inheritance/estate disputes, medical decisions, family communication, driving, and guardianship.
This program will familiarize mediators with the types of issues they may encounter when working with seniors and their families. It also will address some of the differences between elder mediation and other types of mediation. Topics include:

• Elder Mediation
• Challenges of Aging
• Legal Planning
• Multi-Party Role Play
• Marketing your Elder Mediation Practice

Elder Decisions
Register online
Cost: $595 Includes lunches, snacks, and course materials
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Monday, February 11, 2008 10 a.m. PST/ 1 p.m. EST
Multi-disciplinary Practice Benefits Parties and Practitioners
Day in the Life: Attorney/Therapist Mediation Team
ADR Practice Builder telesiminar

Any mediator knows that there are times when two heads are better than one, and you really wish one head was a therapist. As practitioners we know how helpful having another set of eyes and ears can be but how to we make that work in our practices? How do we convince clients to incur the expense?
Diana and Tara, partners in www. Peace-Talks.com will share their knowledge and experiences working as an attorney/therapist team resolving divorce and family matters. We’ll talk with this veteran team about:

• How they got their start
• How to avoid pitfalls and build a robust practice
• What to do or say to get past client resistance

Diana Mercer, Esq. and Tara Fass, LMFT
Tuition: $19 Members, Non-Members $34 before 12/31 $39 Jan. 1
All registrants receive an audio recording of the call as a bonus after the call.
Register online
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February 12, 2008 * 5:00 PM to 8:00 PM
MWI Mediator Social Gathering
McFadden’s - 148 State Street, Boston
Intended Audience: MWI Court and Divorce Panel Members

Roundtable Description: Join MWI staff, mediators, and trainers for a social and informal evening of mingling and conversation at McFadden’s Bar in Boston. While enjoying a discounted cash bar, make new friends and share mediation stories. Lite snacks will be served. Stop by for a short time or stay for all three hours. Guests are welcome. McFadden’s is located behind MWI at 148 State Street. The back room will be reserved for MWI.
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Stay tuned for anther mediation trainings and events roundup for March & April.

U.S. News & World Report’s annual listing of best careers is out. And … drum roll please … mediator is included for the first time. You’ll find it under the headers, Best Careers for a Changing Job Landscape and 31 Careers With Bright Futures.

One factor leading U.S. News to give mediator the nod this year is its resistance to offshoring. It makes sense. We can’t very well have all of our conflict resolution occurring across the vast oceans or continents.

Each career listed comes with a day-in-the-life feature, and an executive summary. Considering what I’ve learned thus far from experienced pros, I’d say these pieces are pretty on point.

The pros noted are that

• Mediators can provide a better alternative to hiring a lawyer when conflict is unresolved, as mediators “can often help resolve a dispute less expensively and with less conflict…”
• “Most mediators love their work, helping people beat their swords into plowshares.”

And the cons…

• Mediators outnumber mediation jobs.
• Low barriers to entering the field (just a 40 hour training) continue the overpopulation.
• Overpopulation of the field means “most mediators do not earn a middle-class income for one to five years.”

This matches well the message in Jeffrey Krivis’ and Naomi Lucks’ recently published, “How to Make Money as a Mediator (And Create Value for Everyone).” Chapter one can be summed up thusly: If you love mediation, if you live for it, if you work very hard every day to build up your skills and connections, you have a chance at putting food on the table doing something you love. Otherwise, pursue something that will better suit you.

So. Do you fit Krivis’ and Lucks’ profile of the top tier mediators?

• Do you love mediating? Are you good at it?
• Do you inspire trust? Are you likeable?
• Have you cultivated relationships with referral sources, or will you be able to?
• Are you ready to work hard? (Long days, late nights, and less time with family and friends.)

If you’ve answered yes to all of the above, you might have a good chance at what’s being reported as one of the top careers with a bright future in the U.S.

If not, I hope you won’t despair. I believe the skills trained mediators possess are vital to our local, national and global communities. The more I learn about conflict, the more I see how people trained in conflict resolution are desperately needed in our offices, stores, schools, government bodies, busy streets, families and friendships. Even if it’s not your bread and butter, you can take heart in knowing that you’re part of a movement.